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Female sounding and female urethral stimulation is a somewhat unknown activity. While urethral play, in general, is not something general population knows a lot about, it is undeniable that male urethral stimulation is more known, and has more information readily available across the web.

That is because the male urethra is longer and wider, and can accommodate larger urethral sounds. At the same time, men can enjoy direct prostate stimulation during sounding, which is the most exciting thing about the urethral play for many men. As such, it’s not surprising that male urethral stimulation is more known than urethral play for women.

However, this doesn’t mean that women can’t engage in urethral play or enjoy it. On the contrary. Urethral stimulation can bring a lot of pleasure to women and lead to some mind-blowing orgasms. The main thing to keep in mind is that you need to be careful and responsible if you wish to engage in this activity.

How to prepare for urethral sounding for the first time

The main question women have about urethral play is how to make their body accept urethral toys for the first time. Since the female urethra is shorter and smaller than the male urethra it is often challenging to insert toys safely.

Luckily, there are ways to make your body accept urethral sounds, but you need to go slowly and give yourself some time to adjust to this new sensation. Here are some tips for all women who wish to try urethral sounding for the first time.

When using a urethral sound for the first time, it is absolutely important to go slowly. Keep in mind that your urethra is not trained, which means it is very narrow and has to be stretched in order to accept urethral toys. There are many different ways to approach this stretching but they all include going slowly and carefully.

Probably the best thing to achieve the initial stretch needed to insert smaller toys is to use plenty of lube, both on the toy and your body. This will help make the experience smoother and more comfortable. Another very important thing to keep in mind is that it helps to be sexually aroused. When you are aroused, your body produces natural lubrication in the area, which keeps things smooth. Furthermore, when you are aroused, your clitoris and urethral opening become bigger and thus easier to work with urethral toys.

Many women find that it is useful to have an orgasm before trying to insert the urethral toy. Your urethra is largest and most relaxed during the orgasm, which can help you a lot when it comes to inserting a toy for the first time. However, keep in mind that it goes back to its original size shortly after the orgasm, so do not try to play with the toy for the first time after you are no longer sexually aroused. Part of the enjoyment of urethral stimulation is to massage the urethral area, which sends pleasurable sensations to your urethra, clitoris, and vagina. For this reason, it is best if urethral sounding is part of the arousal and sexual activity rather than something you do after the arousal is gone.

Also, keep in mind that urethral stimulation, at least at first, might be uncomfortable or even a bit painful. While you should do your best not to hurt your body or damage the tissue, some discomfort is to be expected. You should not be in big pain or prolonged state of discomfort – these things are warning signs that you should not ignore.

On the other hand, do not expect everything to go smoothly the first time you attempt it. Just like your vagina or anus, your urethra needs some time to get used to the new sensation and the feeling of toys being inserted inside of it. For this reason, it is not unusual for urethral sounding to be uncomfortable or a bit painful the first few times.

You need to do everything you can to minimize this problem. Using a lot of high-quality lube will help. Make sure to re-lube when necessary. Another thing you can do is to go slowly and take one step at a time. Stop whenever it becomes uncomfortable and try again after a few moments. If the session takes too long (more than an hour or two), it is best to stop and let your body rest. It is important to give your body at least a few hours (ideally, overnight) to rest before you continue.

Be aroused during the session
As noted above, sexual arousal helps to make the experience more comfortable. It is not just because there is more natural lubrication (though that, too). When you are aroused, things feel more pleasurable, making you want to experience new sensations. This can help a lot with first time sounding, because it can make the experience less uncomfortable. For this reason, make sure that you are very aroused when you try to insert urethral toys for the first time.

Make sure not to have an orgasm before you try to insert urethral toys, though. Once you have an orgasm your arousal level will rapidly decrease, and the whole area around your urethra will become too sensitive. While some women enjoy this sensation it may be too overwhelming for the others.

If you find it too intense to attempt urethral stimulation after an orgasm, make sure to insert urethral toys on the height of arousal. Masturbate using your fingers or a toy until you get very aroused. Once you are aroused enough, place a lubed urethral sound on your urethral opening. You can use a mirror to guide you. Also, make sure to lube the entrance of the urethra. Position the urethral toy on the right place and make a gentle push. Do not use any force – this can injure the sensitive tissue around the urethra. The toy will probably not slide in on its own, but make sure that it is positioned on the right place. Do not stop masturbation. It is very important to have pleasurable sensations on your clitoris, vagina or the anus while doing this.

Choose a sweet spot that arouses you the most and keep rubbing it with the other hand (or a toy) while you gently press the urethral sound into your urethral opening. The familiar, pleasurable sensations on your clitoris will make the experience more arousing so you will feel less discomfort once the urethral toy starts entering your urethra. Make sure to keep your legs spread so the urethral sound can go easily once your body is ready to accept it.

Try to maintain the high level of arousal while you’re doing this, but do not orgasm. It is best if you are very aroused – this will help make the new sensation pleasurable instead of painful. Keep in mind that even if it doesn’t hurt (and urethral stimulation sure doesn’t have to hurt), this is a completely new kind sensation. You need to give your body some time to get used to it and to recognize it as something arousing and pleasurable. For this reason, maintaining high levels of arousal is important – when you are aroused, even the new sensations can be pleasurable and any potential discomfort is easier to go through. This is one of the best ways to make your body accept the insertion of a urethral toy.

While doing this, try your best to postpone orgasm as long as possible. This will give you more time to experiment with urethral stimulation. If you feel you are getting too close to orgasm, pause a little and then continue. Of course, the session should not last for too long. Keep in mind that your body needs to rest after this new experience. Other than orgasming, it is best to keep high levels of arousal throughout the play to make your body more responsive to urethral stimulation.

This is a great way to go to minimize the initial discomfort and strangeness of the urethral stimulation. It is also one of the best ways to insert the urethral toy for the first time.

Keep in mind that you don’t have to go all the way – inserting only the tip of the toy will be enough for the first time. This is a process that takes time. Rather than forcing yourself to do it all in one go, it is best to achieve a bit (for example, inserting only the tip of the toy) and then stopping to give your body some time to rest. Once you achieve these little steps you can allow yourself to orgasm.

Try to see how it feels when you orgasm with the tip of the toy inserted into your urethra – this can be a preview of the great things to come. On the other hand, if it doesn’t feel pleasurable, don’t worry. Your body will have plenty of time to get used to the sensation, but you need to go slowly and go one step at a time.

Finishing the session
Once you orgasm, take the toy out slowly. Make sure to clean it and store it in a safe place. Also, don’t forget to urinate right after your urethral play is done. This will minimize the risk of urinary tract infections. You need to give your body some time to rest after each sounding session. A few hours is a minimum, but it’s best to give it the whole night.

You may try again tomorrow or in a few days. Once you feel your body is ready, repeat the whole process: masturbate to get aroused, then use a mirror to position the sound onto your urethral opening while still masturbating. Try to gently push the toy in a little, all while maintaining high levels of arousal. The arousal and lube will help the process and make it more comfortable. When you feel you are tired or when your arousal becomes too big, you can have an orgasm and end the session. Remove the toy, clean it and give your body enough time to rest before attempting a new session.

If you approach urethral sounding like this, you will find that it becomes easier and easier to insert the tip of the toy into the urethra. After a while, you should be able to insert more than just the tip. Your body will also get used to the feeling of urethral stimulation, so sounding should slowly become arousing on its own.

Many women who enjoy urethral stimulation claim that they don’t need to massage their clitoris during the process, since it is pleasurable on its own. However, this is highly subjective and depends on the person. Once you become more experienced with urethral stimulation you will discover what kind of massage you prefer and what kind of sensations you like.

How to stay safe during urethral sounding for comfortable sounding experience

The main thing many women want to know about urethral sounding is whether it’s safe or not. In fact, this is a common question for all people who wish to try this type of sexual activity. Both men and women need to understand the risks of urethral stimulation and how to stay safe during sounding. It is undeniable that urethral play brings some risks and that you need to be careful and to follow safety guidelines in order to ensure a safe and comfortable sounding experience.

However, most of this advice is targeted at men and male urethral play. Men are taught how to position their penis during insertion of urethral toys and how to stretch their urethra in order to be able to take larger toys. Men are also taught how to perform deep urethral stimulation that can reach their prostate and how to make safe use of very long urethral toys. Many of these things do not apply to women.

Women have a shorter urethra that is also narrow. Women can only insert urethral toys a few inches at most, and typically cannot enjoy very long urethral toys. These are exceptions, but keep in mind that they refer to the extreme forms of urethral stimulation that most women do not want to experience. Typical female urethral play will use only the first top inches of a urethral toy. Also, toys used will usually be thinner than those suitable for men, because women have a narrower urethral passage.

That being said, it is also important to remember that women, too, can stretch their urethra to very large sizes and that it’s dangerous to use toys that are too thin for your urethral passage. This is one of the most important things both men and women need to keep in mind.

At the same time, this is one of the things that can impair safety so you need to pay close attention to it during your urethral play. While this is something men, too, need to remember, women need to be even more careful because their urethra is much shorter.

The main risk women face from the urethral play are urinary tract infections. Since women have a shorter urethra than men, it is easier for infections to spread into the bladder and lead to numerous problems. This is why it is absolutely important to use only fully sterilized urethral toys and to always urinate after urethral play. It is also helpful to drink plenty of cranberry juice and water. These things should help you prevent urinary tract infections. However, remember that these are always a risk when engaging in urethral play. Even men are at risk to develop urinary infections but the risk is higher for women.

Injuries during Urethral Sounding

Injuries during sounding and other urethral play are relatively common. Since this activity brings certain risks, accidents are not unheard of. This is why it’s so important to do everything you can to prevent these problems. Remember: urethral stimulation brings certain risks so you need to be extra careful and to follow all safety guidelines to prevent injuries.

However, injuries during sounding do happen even when you are careful. What to do in these situations and how long does it take for an injury to heal?

What to do with injuries during sounding?
Injuries during sounding can happen even if you are careful. However, this doesn’t mean you should ignore safety guidelines. Remember: while these guidelines minimize the risk and cannot eliminate it completely, they do help prevent many problems. This is why it is so important to stick to the safety routine and to be very careful during your urethral play.

Here are some common problems during urethral play and how to deal with them:

Blood during urethral sounding
Is it normal to see some blood during first attempts at urethral sounding? It is certainly not unheard of. After all, the urethra is very sensitive and can be hurt easily. This is why it’s so important to be careful.

If you experience only a few drops of blood, but without much pain and discomfort, chances are that it’s nothing serious. Especially if you are able to continue sounding without discomfort. However, to make sure that everything is fine, it is best to visit a kink-friendly doctor who can examine you and give you advice.

That being said, a bit of blood during first attempts at urethral sounding is not something unusual. While not all people experience it, it does happen. What is important is to learn how to prevent this from happening in the future. Make sure to always use plenty of lube and make yourself as relaxed as possible. Always use appropriate urethral toys that are not too big nor too thin for your urethra. Take your time and be very careful, especially until you learn how to perform urethral sounding properly.

Remember: bleeding should not happen over and over again. In case you experience it frequently, make sure to consult a kink-friendly doctor. On the other hand, if it’s a minor thing and if it doesn’t cause more trouble, well, chances are that you’ll be fine. (It’s still good to visit a doctor just to make sure you are 100% fine but yes, these things do happen to newbies sometimes. It is important not to ignore it if it happens.)

Injuries during urethral sounding
If you experience an injury, it is important to act quickly to prevent further problems. The first thing you need to do is to remove the sound or any other toy that you have in your urethra. Any sexual activity has to stop as soon as you notice a problem such as pain, discomfort, discharge, blood or any other warning sign. It is important to act quickly so you don’t make matters worse.

It is also advisable to visit a doctor, especially if you notice some warning signs even after the urethral toy is out. Common warning signs include discharge, swelling, numbness, pain, blood and general discomfort. Urinary tract infections are also a common problem associated with urethral sounding and they have to be treated by your doctor. Women are particularly at risk of these infections, so make sure to remember that.

In short, it is important to act quickly and to avoid any form of urethral play until your body heals completely. Trying to insert any urethral toy when your injury is still fresh is a big no-no, so it is good to avoid urethral play for some time.

How long to wait after injury?
Another common question people ask is how long they should wait to resume urethral play. Unfortunately, there is no one good answer to this. There are many different types of injuries and many types of problems. In minor cases, you will only need to avoid urethral sounding for a few days but in more serious cases you might need to wait for weeks (or even longer).

The best judge of this is your doctor who can advise you about resuming urethral play. Again, in order to get this type of advice, it is necessary to have a kink-friendly doctor, and these are not always easy to find.

It is best to listen to your body. Wait at least a week or two and then start experimenting slowly to see how your body reacts. Make sure to use plenty of lube and try first with shorter, smaller toys. Do not use overly thin nor overly thick toys. It is best to go with the smoothest, simplest toy possible that is not intimidating nor intense. For this purpose, try to insert just the tip of the toy and see how your body reacts. Do not try to go back to full urethral play straight away. At first, test your body to see how it feels. Your body will tell you if it’s ready to resume full urethral play or not.

Whatever you do, make sure not to force a toy down your urethra and do not ignore any pain and discomfort! This is very dangerous and can make your injury worse. It is important to be very patient and to go extra slowly when trying to re-introduce urethral play to your sexual activities.

What is the Best Position for Urethral Sounding?

Again, it is vital to understand that there are some differences between people. Each person is an individual and there are some slight variations in anatomy. Also, the best position for urethral sounding will also depend on the toy you use. You need to take all of this into account.

Generally speaking, however, most women prefer to do their urethral play while they are on their back, legs spread wide. This allows for easy access to the urethra. It is best to do it on a large enough bed or another comfortable surface that allows for freedom of movement. You should have enough room to move left and right, if needed. It is generally best for beginners to have as much space as possible.

You should also have a mirror to help you. It is important to locate your urethral opening carefully so you can position your toys correctly. Remember: you should just place the tip of the toy on the entrance of your urethra in the beginning, until you learn how to fully perform urethral play.

Try to experiment to find out the best position for urethral sounding until you find it. Just make sure to go slowly and carefully. Generally speaking, spreading your legs wide with enough space around you seems to work great for many people.