This serves as a basic introduction to fisting, providing guidelines on how to engage in it and emphasizing important safety precautions.

What is “fisting”?

Most people are familiar with the concept of finger penetration for pleasure, whether in the anus or vagina. It can be incredibly enjoyable to stimulate someone internally with fingers. However, fewer individuals have been exposed to the idea of inserting an entire hand into the anus or vagina, which is essentially what fisting entails. Although it is anatomically possible and can be extremely pleasurable.

That being said, it is crucial to clarify what fisting is not. Fisting does not involve forcefully making a fist and inserting it. It is one of the most intimate and all-encompassing ways to connect with another person physically, requiring slow and gentle progression. Numerous posts on the subject have covered topics such as proper technique, safety concerns, the incredible feeling of openness and connection, and the extraordinary level of intimacy two people can achieve through fisting. It is an immensely intense form of lovemaking. While I cannot do justice to the firsthand descriptions provided by others, I can address some of the safety concerns associated with fisting.

Important safety considerations

First and foremost, it is crucial to trim and file your nails meticulously until they are perfectly smooth. Since your fingers will be entering sensitive areas that may not have pain receptors, it is essential to minimize the risk of causing any damage.

Using latex, or other medical grade latex-like gloves is highly recommended.

Cleaning your partner’s gastrointestinal tract is likely necessary for an anal fisting session. Enemas are commonly used for this purpose, and it is important to handle them with care.

Using warm water is preferable, while detergents should be avoided. Some individuals enjoy adding alcohol (not rubbing alcohol) to enemas, but if you choose to do so, make sure to use an extremely diluted solution. Alcohol can be rapidly absorbed, and if the submissive becomes intoxicated, they may be unable to expel it. However, I am unable to provide an exact dosage as this seems quite risky to me.

How do you engage in fisting?

Ample amounts of lubrication are essential! Apply it generously with your fingers, creating a mess. Cover your entire hand, including the back and spaces between your fingers. Continuously reapply lubrication as you proceed.

You can never have too much lube! (keep in mind that oil-based lubricants can degrade latex)

Some individuals prefer KY jelly, while others find it dries out too quickly. Depending on your fisting location, anal or vaginal, the lube may have to change, but for the best safety, the majority of anal water-based lubes that do not contain any benzocaine or other de-sensitizing drugs will do the job.

Take your time and proceed slowly. Begin with one finger and gradually increase the number. Avoid rushing the process. Pay close attention to your partner’s feelings and responses. Remember, you are persuading their body to open up to you, allowing a deep connection. The energy will flow back and forth, and you will guide it, coaxing and applying gentle pressure, moving in and out, while gradually inducing a trance-like state in your partner. Maintain constant communication with your partner. Gags or role-playing scenarios that involve the submissive feeling inferior or being instructed to stay silent may not contribute to the relaxation and open empathy that is often necessary, particularly during the first experience.

If your partner reaches their limit and suddenly tightens their orifice, it will be evident. In such a situation, do not immediately withdraw. Stay in place until the contraction subsides, and only then begin the process of removing your hand. Attempting to retreat midway through the contraction could result in pulling a muscle or causing other injuries. If this occurs, it is alright; simply take it slower next time, if both parties wish to try again. Assuming everything is progressing well…

Once you reach five fingers, you are nearing the end. This is the moment to be most sensitive and aware. Your partner will be experiencing a mix of pain and pleasure, and a sudden flinch may indicate that their anus or vagina can no longer accommodate your hand. In such cases, respect their boundaries and slowly withdraw (note: be cautious of your nails while retracting your hand). However, if your partner desires it, you can proceed by sliding your knuckles inside, folding your thumb inside your fingers. As I have been informed, this action will naturally form a fist—there is no need to clench your hand or engage in any additional actions. At this point, the true enjoyment begins. Explore, entice, and pleasure your partner, who will likely experience incredible sensations. When the time comes to remove your hand, do so gradually and in a fluid motion.